She was born at 4:44am on a nice Wednesday morning. She was born with her eyes open and has barely closed them since.
I have several friends with babies who sleep nearly constantly. A gentle stroll in the pram will result in blissful deep sleep for many hours.
Babies who sleep right through the night, or who drift back off peacefully after a feed.
Babies who can sleep anywhere and for whom time is quite fluid.
Lydia laughs in their faces and laughs in ours too. She has plans, big plans, and they don't involve sleep. We don't know what her plans are, and doubtful if she does either, but either way: sleep is not part of it and never has been.
|The Diva and Bigger Diva, Feb 2014|
Adam used to be set in his cot when sleepy, with a bit of a gentle rub of his back and his lullaby teddy he'd be fast asleep and I'd sit downstairs watching a DVD, cleaning or having a nap myself.
Napping in a cot was not on Lydia's agenda, no matter how hard I tried she just cried harder. Cried till she vomited so I just waved my white flag and stopped.
I didn't own a pram until she was nearly 6 months old, and even if I did there was no way she'd sleep with a gentle stroll and my 2.5 year old wouldn't have been able to walk the 50 miles needed to get her to drop off.
50 miles? Yep, that's about right. As it got into winter I took to driving to get her to sleep. Often it took around 30 minutes of driving to even get her to close her eyes, then I'd park the car in the driveway and be able to watch her from the house. Lifting her out of the car and up into her room was a no-hope idea. Sometimes even turning off the engine, unclicking my seatbelt and opening my door was enough for her eyes to ping open.
So after a year of driving while entertaining a 3 year old Adam, he started nursery and I had a bit more peace with the napping plan. She napped after a drive while he was at nursery and woke in time for me to pick him up in the afternoon. Bliss... Or it was until it started to mess with her bedtime sleep and just wasn't working anymore.
By about 15 months of age any daytime sleep would result in partying till around 10pm. Totally overtired, but totally hyper. Reminded me a bit of someone on ecstasy. I'd tell her to lie down and close her eyes and she'd stand up with her eyes closed la la la-ing with a teddy bear on her head. Then she'd pass out asleep around the time that I go to bed. A nice evening that didn't make for.
So at 16 months the daytime nap stopped. It didn't bother her in the least during the day, she just kept soldiering on and I started to suspect she might actually be a robot.
Once the daytime nap stopped I saved a fortune on diesel which was nice. Also no daytime nap meant an earlier bedtime of 6pm for Lydia which gave me time with Adam in the evening before his bedtime (7:30pm) and with Andrew when he got home from work. Incidentally he doesn't return from work until after Lydia's new bedtime, which isn't great, but tough luck.
6pm she falls alseep like a dream and for a while she was sleeping 6pm until nearly 8am and I was over the moon. Didn't last longer than a few weeks but it was lovely.
Now most nights are a bit like a twisted version of Cinderella at the ball. Lydia sleeps great from 6pm until midnight (when I'm just starting to have a deep sleep) and then she wakes up to party, sometimes for up to 3 hours, and then she'll fall back asleep until 6:30am.
Now she's in a bed she is mobile and can move. Often she creeps out of her room and appears beside my bed, almost at eye level and says "Hiya Mummy!" Cute, but spooky too.
Musical beds is still the order of the night in our house. Often she only wants to sleep in with me once she's wakened during the night, or maybe with her daddy in the big bed. Most nights one of us adults is to be found with about 12 inches of our legs hanging out the end of her toddler-bed. But it's sleep so we'll take it.
Not a great sleeper, but lots of fun. Never any chances to catch up on sleep during the day with two active kids around, and no chances of overnight babysitting. Would pay good money for that, seriously.
But in reality we'll just wait and hope she grows out of it after the next growth spurt. Surely it must be coming and surely it can't be long.